Tuesday, June 14, 2016

denturist appointment update...or should i say disappointment?

of course....it's still gray. but lots of beautiful colours of green too!


poor jambaloney worked all day yesterday and then we had to drive an hour and a half into port hawkesbury this morn at 7 to make it to my denturist appointment.

my denturist took a 35 second glance into my mouth and shuddered. he quickly regained himself and in the kindest terms possible told us that my mouth had suffered some serious trauma. which both me and jambaloney knew. it took 4 hours for my dentist to take out my 15 teeth...during the taking out of my teeth another dentist walked by and said "are you still working on her? for the love of gawd, give her some novocaine". so i had lidocaine, novocane, and some other ocanes, and it took 4 hours to get get my teeth out. at one point, my dentist went and got another dentist to take out one of my teeth and he had to take it out in 4 pieces.

like i said, the denturist took one look in my mouth and said that my mouth suffered severe trauma. he was very respectful to the dentist who took my teeth out...and explained that normally you grab a tooth by the crown and pull it out and then a whole is left. but in my case, i have a trench on the upper right side of my mouth. he explained that they must have had to wrench and wrench pieces of my teeth out - which they did and explained to me as they were doing it. he said i must have been smashed in the face several times when i was younger because he could see from the trenches that were left that several of my teeth fused together and he was right. that's what left the trenches.

he told me he would make me dentures right there on the spot. but that i would be back every 2 weeks, because even though there was no sign of infection ( thank The Lord) - i was healing slower because the trenches were so deep. so he wants me to wait and go back on july 19.

i cried the whole drive home. i am normally a very good healer...i have had several nose surgeries and several broken bones which healed up super quick during my life. i knew my gums were healing but i also knew that i had a wicked trench in my upper mouth. every time i eat i rinse my mouth with salt water. i have never let even the tiniest piece of food get stuck in any of the holes or the trench.

my denturist said that my mouth and tongue were extremely healthy but that i had trauma done to my jawbone and that was because the dentist had such a hard time extracting teeth that had grown interconnected.

i left feeling like i had done something wrong. the denturist said my mouth was extremely healthy but the trauma caused from wrenching my teeth out made for slower healing. i am a fast healer! i have had more broken bones and things than you can imagine! and i always heal faster than normal. just not this time.

so i cried the whole way home with jambaloney trying to console me. talking to my sister C when i got home helped a lot and she gave me some ideas to try.

but i feel like i did something wrong??? i have been blitzkrieging my meals, i have been taking my vitamins and probiotics and green shakes daily, i have been eating only fish that has been caught at Lobsters R Us and trout that jambaloney catches, i have been eating lots of fruit - i am a quick healer! i have always healed quickly. but jam and i both acknowledged on the drive home that - YES - there is a big trench in my mouth. not holes where teeth were pulled but a trench where teeth were jiggle-jaggled and made bigger because the roots of my teeth were so interwoven.

yes, i am having a pity party. yes, it's still gray out there. yes, little edgar got his food this morning but i haven't seen him since we got home. jambaloney is so worn out he is out in the living room sleeping in his chair with his feet in the ottoman. he put in a full day of work yesterday - in at 6am - left at 4pm and then an hour of shopping and an hour drive home. he is as disappointed as i am.

such a downer post, i know. but some people on the interwebs have accused me of overdoing how wonderful it is here. please believe that i don't overdo it. it IS INCREDIBLY WONDERFUL HERE. but then this b*llshit teeth stuff has to happen.

my man is gorgeous and has all of his little tiny beautiful teeth. he has been looking at me with no teeth for over 2 months. i want to be attractive for him.

and right now, all i want to do, even though i am already doing it, is cry.

i wish all of you the best and i am so sorry for such a downer post - but eff! i thought i was going to get teeth today. can somebody please send me some teeth????

sending love to you all...i mean it.

21 comments:

  1. I feel like crying with you, how disappointing, it will all be worth it in the end I am sure but a difficult thing to have to go through.

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  2. Ah, I can feel your disappointment. I'm so sorry at your disappointment. But, we humans are funny creatures, aren't we? We think we can quickly heal / fix that which took the good Lord who knows how long to perfect. Broken bones take time to mend, broken hearts take time to heal - and, kymber, trenches take time to fill. Think of the layering process which is taking place in your jaw bones / gums every second, of every minute, of every hour, of every day, of every week, of every month since your teeth were removed. Think of all the good food you've eaten and the care you have taken and know that your care, and yours and jam's fresh food / green shakes / probiotics are helping those filling, healing layers form till the day when finally your gums will be in a state to accept your dentures. Don't be disheartened, rather relish the knowledge that *when* the time is right, everything will fall into place. Maybe it won't be in your expected time, but in your gums time.

    Patience never is easy, but time is needed for all those atoms to cling together and fill those trenches.

    Hang in there. In the grand scheme of things another month or two or more is insignificant given the years you have lived, and still have to live 😀

    Jam loves you - not only because you once had teeth but he loves you for who you are inside more than for any other reason.

    Take it easy, my friend - and go give that man of yours a hug.

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  3. As you know healing takes its own sweet time and there's nothing you've done to make it go slow, as it's in your mouth there's no nice scab covering the wound to enable a healthy wound bed to get to work underneath, it's constantly disturbed by eating and talking.
    That you have got this far without any infection shows great dental hygiene.
    I'm glad you had a good old cry, it'll do you the world of good to move past the disappointment. Just think this time next year you'll have the flashiest teeth ever and Jam will love you just as much with teeth as he does without xxx

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  4. kymber: Go ahead and cry. Tears heal the heart just like time heals the body. It will all work out in the long run. In the meanwhile, know that your friends are sympathizing and praying for your healing. Incidentally, you OBVIOUSLY have done nothing "wrong." -Your friend, Gorges

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  5. Please don't feel bad about venting. When you get news you are not expecting it can be devastating to say the least. Go ahead & get your cry out. You want those new teeth to fit like a glove & to not have to have them adjusted everytime you sip a bowl of soup. Some healing just takes longer & you will get better when you are supposed to. Now keep rinsing your mouth & blitzkrieging your food & July will be here in no time. Also, you are allowed to cry, it helps cleanse the soul.

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  6. Kymber, I am so sorry. When your dentures are done, it will be AMAZING. you're a beautiful person. I'm sorry you weren't able to get your dentures.

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  7. Dear Sweet Kymber, let me share a little secret with you! When Jamb looks at you he sees the most beautiful creature in this whole world! This aggravation will pass and you will once again smile! Someday when this is over,until then know that lots of people love you and think you are beautiful.

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  8. Sending you huge hug from our little homestead. I hate going to the dentist and I really feel for you. Hope you heal fast.

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  9. So sorry to hear this news, sending positive vibes your way until your full smile is restored!

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  10. I'm envious. I could do so much with the extra fifteen minutes a day I had not having to brush and floss.

    You'll get there Kymber. I'm still healing after a knee injury 25 years ago. July isn't a bad wait.

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  11. I'm sure its been very difficult so far but we are all looking forward to a big, beautiful blistering white smile soon. It will be worth every minute of the pain and discomfort your going through.

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  12. Sweet Kymber,

    I know you feel like you've been sucker punched after listening to what your dentist said today. You've been doing everything as instructed by your dentist. Take a deep breath, and realize this delay is not your fault. You've been making sure you eat properly, take your vitamins, and medication, brushing and cleaning your gums in preparation. I truly believe your dentist wants you to have the best teeth he can provide therefore, he wants the trench to heal just a tad more.

    You worked hard to get to this point, give it just a little more time Sweetie. Your an amazing woman, and friend. You're extremely strong, and we woman stick together. Remember what you told me when I had surgery??? You told me to listen to the instructions my surgeon gave me. Well Sweetie, I'm telling you the same thing, listen to what your dentist said, and before you know it will be the day you get your new teeth.

    Bulldog Man wanted me to tell you everything will be alright, this too will pass and you'll be sitting in that dental chair smiling with your new teeth real soon.
    ((((((Kymber)))))) Hugging you right now!!!
    We love you girl.....send love also to Jam the man!!!
    Sandy

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  13. Boo. Just boo. I am sorry.

    Clinically I can say that our bodies are living organisms and, as such, have differences even within themselves as to how they react - sometimes one way, sometimes another. That does not help the disappointment though, especially as you have been doing everything just as you should. But (says the guy who has zero patience) better to be completely ready than to do it before then and have lingering problems for years afterwards.

    As Julian of Norwich said, "All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well." It is just the waiting that kills us.

    Much love, TB

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  14. Well crap! Damn! What the hell!? I'm sure all those (and more colorful words, ha) have come out. And tears. It's OK, we all have up moments and down moments and healing is one of those things that we have no control over. Sure we can help it along, and do what they tell us to, and do extra healthy things but ultimately, it's our body that has the final say so. You want things healed JUST right so that you can get the right dentures and everything fits and is comfortable and you get your wonderful smile back. But you know what? Jam loves you just the way you are...I'm reminded of the awesome John Legend song and I know Jam feels just like this:

    'Cause all of me
    Loves all of you
    Love your curves and all your edges
    All your perfect imperfections
    Give your all to me
    I’ll give my all to you
    You’re my end and my beginning
    Even when I lose I’m winning
    'Cause I give you all, all of me
    And you give me all, all of you

    How many times do I have to tell you
    Even when you’re crying you’re beautiful too
    The world is beating you down, I’m around through every move
    You’re my downfall, you’re my muse
    My worst distraction, my rhythm and blues
    I can’t stop singing, it’s ringing, in my head for you...

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  15. Member, try taking zinc, it promotes healing. I'm so sorry.

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  16. Oh, babe. You did nothing wrong. You did more and better than most. It's just rotten luck. And you are allowed to have a pity party any time you want. If I was there right now, I would give you a good, long hug. You'll have to settle for a virtual one, love.

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  17. Well, damn! I feel really badly hearing this Kymber. I wish I had come by here sooner.

    You have had some really bad luck with the teeth. About all I can say is that I think you are being pretty brave about it. Don't worry about crying. Remember we talked about that once, it's ok for women to cry nobody thinks less of them. If there's anything we can send you from down here to help I would be glad to go get it and send it up. You know that.

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  18. Kimber, just a thought but what about whipping up a batch of an herbal mouth rinse ? The gum tissue is much like skin so maybe check into herbs that are healing to skin Plantain, Calendula, comfrey, mullein . I am thinking more along the lines of a tincture? not something to be ingested, just rinse with.... I am sure you can find some herbs that will work

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  19. ok quick google search came up with several sites to check. I have not checked them out. one that I would trust is mountainrose herbs http://mountainroseblog.com/herbal-mouthwash-recipe/

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  20. Oh, you poor kid! I can't imagine the disappointment you felt when you heard it's going to be another month. I think you have handled the healing well. Can you imagine what would have happened if you hadn't been taking such good care of yourself? Sometimes things take longer than we were told and there is nothing to do but cry and then get on with it. Take some deep breaths. It will all turn out in the end.

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  21. Im sad because your sad :(

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